Something I’ve had to accept and heal from lately is the realization that some people will never acknowledge the damage of their conduct in regards to you. So I wanted to write about how important it is in these situations, … Continue Reading Boundaries
When you tell me “It was God’s plan”, “God needed him more”, “He’s in a better place”, “Heaven needed him”, or “Everything happens for a reason.” You are minimizing my child’s life and death. Stop saying these things to the … Continue Reading This Was Never About Divinity
It’s International Bereaved Fathers Day today. I think something that is often forgotten in the world of child loss is that- dads grieve too. My husbands grief isn’t something I’ve spent much of any time talking about publicly because I … Continue Reading International Bereaved Fathers Day
I want to touch more on what it is to bring a “rainbow baby” into the world. It requires you … Continue Reading The Complexity of a Rainbow
“You are not a resolution to hard times, nor the means to the end of my grief. You are not … Continue Reading National Rainbow Baby Day
Today, he is one year older. Six years ago he came into this world having saved both of us from … Continue Reading Six
Dear Jordan, This morning, your son died. Right now it feels hopeless. As you hold your lifeless baby in your … Continue Reading A Letter To a Past Self
Rowan turns 6 two weeks from today. Lately he’s been remarking a LOT about missing his brother. The fact that my 6 year old child already has a part of his story that includes death, breaks my heart. I’m thankful … Continue Reading Rowan’s Grief
I want to take a moment to thank all of you who read my last post and we’re not only … Continue Reading Aftermath
This week tested me more than I’ve been tested since Sloan died. My emotions and anxiety were so triggered that I was physically ill from it. One of the worst parts was not being able to discuss any of it … Continue Reading Trial & Arrogance
Have you ever had to think about what you would say for your child’s eulogy? Have you ever had to sign your name on a paper detailing what you want done with the body they left behind? Have you had … Continue Reading Have You Ever
He was so in love, absolutely smitten with his new baby brother. This photo makes me ache. The same ache … Continue Reading Rowan & Sloan
For more than 8 years, we’ve been at each other’s side. Sometimes reluctantly, sometimes with difficulty, many times joyously. Our … Continue Reading Written For Us
Today has been exhausting. You don’t listen, you cry when you don’t get your way, make yourself throw up instead … Continue Reading My Strong Willed Child
The bereaved spend so much time being shushed and made to feel like we cannot share because it’s too sad, too uncomfortable, too inappropriate. We are quieted by people, with solutions, the want to gloss over with positivity, the need … Continue Reading Let us Complain
When I was pregnant with Sloan, as whole heartedly as we wanted a second child, as hard as we had … Continue Reading Siblings
