Rowan’s Grief

Rowan turns 6 two weeks from today. Lately he’s been remarking a LOT about missing his brother. The fact that my 6 year old child already has a part of his story that includes death, breaks my heart. I'm thankful that our efforts to continue being transparent about our own grief as parents, and making [...]

Let us Complain

The bereaved spend so much time being shushed and made to feel like we cannot share because it’s too sad, too uncomfortable, too inappropriate. We are quieted by people, with solutions, the want to gloss over with positivity, the need to correct, to answer. Even with “good intentions”, certain things just hurt. When we are [...]

The Day Before

The Day Before

18 weeks with baby girl 🖤 Today is rough. I’m not sure what’s worse. The day before the anniversary of his death- or the day of. See, the day before is filled with anticipation. Anticipating tomorrows triggers, tears, grief attacks, longing, ache. It’s filled with remembering that on the evening of this day 2 years [...]

Igniting the Flame

Igniting the Flame

This is a heartbreaking post to write. To have to recognize just how hurtful and mean spirited people can be, EVEN when they know your story or circumstances. Sometimes, because of your story or circumstances. Each year on July 3rd, the anniversary of Sloan’s death, we hold a small family and friends memorial for him. [...]