You were not our first, nor our second, it’s a fact you’ll know all your life. We loved two of your brothers before knowing you. But your significance is immense. You came barreling into our world after tragedy, leaving us no option but to face our grief and our healing. Your very presence in a [...]
I wanted to highlight some of my very favorite hospital toiletry bag additions as I approach my last weeks of this pregnancy. Of course things like concealer, a toothbrush and paste, hair brush, dry shampoo, etc are necessities, but there's a few extra goodies I'm bringing that I think others should consider! Since this is [...]
Hello November! I’ve taken some time away from writing and posting lately. Life has been busy as we’ve settled into Rowan being in school, Phoenix turning into a little person instead of a baby, and ALL of us preparing for the new baby’s arrival in the coming weeks. This also means Sloan’s 3rd birthday is [...]
This morning my first baby woke up a kindergartener. He is ecstatic to start this journey, this milestone is one he is so ready for and I know that is because we gave him that extra year to grow into himself and his experiences emotionally. I’d be lying if I said I haven’t cried a [...]
Something I've had to accept and heal from lately is the realization that some people will never acknowledge the damage of their conduct in regards to you. So I wanted to write about how important it is in these situations, to honor YOURSELF and your needs. You have to be strong enough to know when [...]
When you tell me “It was God’s plan”, “God needed him more”, “He’s in a better place”, “Heaven needed him”, or “Everything happens for a reason.” You are minimizing my child's life and death. Stop saying these things to the bereaved. They aren’t helpful anecdotes. Your innocuous expression won’t fix it. You aren’t saving us [...]
It’s International Bereaved Fathers Day today. I think something that is often forgotten in the world of child loss is that- dads grieve too. My husbands grief isn’t something I’ve spent much of any time talking about publicly because I have tried very hard to respect his emotional autonomy. Justin’s grieving has been a very [...]
